Dose determines the poison. There isn't enough of aluminum or formaldehyde or mercury or DNA fragments or what ever else these over exaggerating scare tactic people peddle to try and scare you. 

Vaccines save lives. Period. It has been supported over and over.  EDIT - Read through all the comments made in this thread before commenting. They sure get interesting.

First comment thread ...

Person #1 - Kobbled Krafts who supported that? Oh wait the people that profit from it ! And doses of poison??? What! No mention of how many of those doses or what other poisons are mixed within that cocktail! You’ve been conned!

me- Sandra Lewis Everything is a poison...... Even water....... If you have too much of it. Money runs the world and that has been true back when people traded for better weapons to make hunting easier all the way to today where we still trade peices of metal and paper for something to make our lives easier. So, what? 

The point is that if those medicines and treatments didn't show results, people would not buy them.... Especially medical insurance. They would not support a treatment that would cost them more money from getting injured by the treatment. The numbers are clear. Vaccines are effective. They have significantly less chance of causing serious harm than the disease itself.

 person #2  - Mousi Terra I've been to a baby's funeral who passed from SIDS....post vax. I suppose if your child died post vax or became injured to the point where they'd depend on you for the rest of their life you'd be cool with it????

me -To person #2- Joy Cook Bouget while that is extremely hard.... There is no support that SIDS is caused by vaccinations. Just a correlation. Do you know what showed a strong connection? The way the baby was sleeping....of all things. See, we can play this "what if" game all day. But looking at the numbers, the rise of vaccination injury is much less than the disablement and death chances of the diseases themselves. Much much lower. I think I would risk the vaccine.

Second comment thread....

person #3 - Kobbled Krafts but so does method of exposure. Venom through a bite puts it into the bloodstream. Venom ingested may not do anything unless it finds direct access to your bloodstream, e.g. through cuts in your mouth.

me - Caterina Knight That is true. If you look at the aluminum salts that are given in vaccines, not only is the dose so small that it would be less than most meals you would eat, injecting it into the muscle tissue further keeps it out of the brain by the method it is moved out of the muscle. Almost all of it is excreted out in the urine.

person #3 - Kobbled Krafts actually, studies have shown the opposite. A lot of these metals from vaccines are crossing the blood-brain barrier and are being found to stay and reside in brain tissue.

me - Caterina Knight First, there is no direct causal link to increased aluminum in people to vaccines. It is unknown where the elevated levels come from. Also, some of the increase in aluminum for individuals are linked to specific medical conditions and that may be a contributing factor to why they have more aluminum hanging out in the brain. But, it is still unknown or not supported that it comes from vaccines. 

And again..... Dose matters. So, the amount of aluminum that does get to the brain is way below that current safety levels.

person #3 - Can you link/tell me what the studies are called so I can read about this please?

Me - sure, Aluminum came into the publics eye a couple of decades ago when there was controversy surrounding a study that showed that there was an increased amount of aluminum in the brains of people who had Alzheimer's. Well, of course the media went with it and sensationalized it and the scientist went crazy with their studies to see if it was truly a causal link. But, they found that it had no link. then they looked at sources of aluminum that got into the body and of course vaccines were one of the sources. . . . so they researched the hell out of that too. And they found no link again. Still the mindset persists even when the evidence keeps piling up against it. Now you add Influencers that can basically post anything they want and offer no source material at all other than the original that has already been disproven over and over again..... and her we are.

So as for the sources - here is a list to look up and read. I am always suspect of anyone who uses a phrase like "do your own research" or "look it up yourself because I am not going to do it for you." These are clearly people that want to discredit and not inform.    

World Health Organization (WHO) – Environmental Health Criteria 194: Aluminium (1997)

European Food Safety Authority (EFSA) – Scientific Opinion on the Re-evaluation of Aluminium-containing Food Additives (2008, updated 2011)

U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) – Guidance for Industry: Aluminum in Large and Small Volume Parenterals Used in Total Parenteral Nutrition (2002)

Agency for Toxic Substances and Disease Registry (ATSDR) – Toxicological Profile for Aluminum (2008)                       

Alzheimer’s & Neurological Effects

Alzheimer’s Association – Aluminum and Alzheimer’s Disease Fact Sheet

M. Kawahara & M. Kato-Negishi – Link between Aluminum and the Pathogenesis of Alzheimer’s Disease: The Integration of the Aluminum and Amyloid Cascade Hypotheses (International Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease, 2011)

R. Walton – Aluminum in Drinking Water: A Health Risk? (Journal of Environmental Pathology, Toxicology and Oncology, 2014)

S. Bondy – Low levels of aluminum can lead to behavioral and neurological changes (NeuroToxicology, multiple review papers)

Kidney Disease & Bone Disorders

National Kidney Foundation – Aluminum Toxicity and Dialysis Patients

D. Cannata-Andía & J. Fernández-Martín – Aluminum and bone disease in chronic renal failure (Journal of Nephrology, 2002)

J.L. Domingo – Aluminum and other metals in chronic renal failure (Journal of Nephrology, 1995)

Vaccines & Adjuvants

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) – Vaccine Ingredients – Aluminum

World Health Organization (WHO) – Safety of Aluminum-containing Adjuvants (Global Advisory Committee on Vaccine Safety, 2012)

L. Exley et al. – Aluminum in human brain tissue from donors with autism (Journal of Trace Elements in Medicine and Biology, 2018) [often cited in controversy, criticized for methods]

C. Mitkus et al. – Pharmacokinetics of aluminum in infants following vaccination (Vaccine, 2011)

Reviews & Overviews

R. Yokel & D. Golub – Research issues in aluminum toxicity (NeuroToxicology, 2007)

J.L. Domingo – Aluminum and health: a review (Journal of Environmental Pathology, Toxicology and Oncology, 1995; updated reviews since)

R. Krewski et al. – Human health risk assessment for aluminum, aluminum oxide, and aluminum hydroxide (Journal of Toxicology and Environmental Health, 2007)

Third comment on thread .. .

Person #4 - Kobbled Krafts someone needs to read Trace Amounts , and a hazmat sheet on each ingredient

me - Michelle Thibodeau Pearson How vague and uninformative. Its almost like you are using a static to dismiss and discredit what I said with a statement that sounds like it means something but has nothing to back it up. How original of you...... 

The amount of aluminum and mercury in these vaccines and the type..... You know..... Metal salts compared to elemental metal or methyl instead of ethyl...... Makes quite a difference too. The amount of these components are miniscule compared to the type and amount you are exposed to from just every day environment (be careful where you catch your fish from, you know?)

So, MS vague statement girl........ Show me good solid evidence about this "trace amounts" you are purposely eluding me to.

persin #4  - Kobbled Krafts you're wrong. 

A book title and government hazmat information isn't 

" vague". In fact , your ignorance is dangerous.

Me - Michelle Thibodeau Pearson Ok, you got me. I didn't realize that "Trace Amounts" was a book title. Whew! That must felt good to call me on that and then be able to get your dig in of calling me dangerously ignorant..... Wouldn't want you to miss out on a good insult, eh?p

But hey, I tell you what, I'll look it up and see if it is worth a read. I am sure it is going to be a great source for showing what conspiracy thinking or cherry picking or data that can't be reproduced would look like. 

And I have no idea what hazmat info has to do with this..... The amounts of these ingredients in vaccines are at safe (usually way below safe) levels. If it was a hazmat issue then there would be people in hazmat suits swarming every children's clinic in the country.

person #4 - Kobbled Krafts they only 

" swarm " if the vial breaks 

That you seem clueless about synergistic effects of small doses combined , which was SUPPOSED to be evaluated to get liability shield but NEVER Was done , while the doses piled up per visit..well I guess reading fully referenced, footnoted books hasn't been your " thing" so lots of catching up to do

Turtles All The Way Down , The Real Anthony Fauci, and The Pfizer Papers are must reads also , the last one is their own FOIA data from discovery, from the lawsuit. 

You will be better informed if you read just those.

There IS NO safe dose , js. 

Your kind even think you know more than THE most published doctor on EARTH , Dr McCullough, his autism retrospective analysis is 🔥

me - Michelle Thibodeau Pearson ok.... I have read some of these and they are only bias feeders and conspiracy theories. They are weak with support and reliability and can't be reproduced in results. I mean you might be able to hit a target blind if you shoot enough bullets at it but doesn't mean it's true that blind people are markesmen.

person #4 - Kobbled Krafts you use words , but incorrectly. It is the PAID , PHARMA conducted trials that are not reproducible . Also fraudulent. Then we get to the papers , where the abstract and conclusion don't match the body , and have to use certain phrases in them to get published. 

You're not very good at this , js

me - Michelle Thibodeau Pearson Wow, such debating skills for yourself. You know self proclaiming that I am "not very good at this" doesn't make it true. Personally, you are not really that great at it either. You give me a bunch of conspiracy theory books that have serious flaws and have been put in question and there is no evidence to counter claim. Then you randomly bring up hazmat guidelines on the ingredients to vaccines and that is wildly absurd because hazmat deals with industrial and environmental amounts that are crazy dangerous to the public. On top of that, you made a subtle claim that if one vial of vaccine dropped and spilled on the floor that hazmat would have to be called to clean it up..... And that is wildly untrue and talking in hyperbole. If a vial of vaccine breaks there is not enough of any......ANY..... Ingredient to harm a person at all. They just clean it up with a paper towel and throw it in the trash. That's how dangerous it is. And finally, using synergistic as an argument is just a red herring argument and I didn't even respond to it. The total combined amount of what you would be labeling toxins from these vaccines would not add up to be more than what a person is exposed to on a weekly basis. 

If all you got is "big pharma" and "who paid for that" then you don't understand that even though I personally agree they are money grubbing greedy evil people, they get results. And contrary to your own statement, their medicine does make a difference and works. Their results are reproducible and is usually verified by an outside source that has no conflicting interest to their findings.

Personally, I don't think you are very good at this..... Js. 

But, hey..... We will let others who read this decide. 

 

You know, I have been looking at this meme for a couple of weeks now and this one irks me a bit.

My son has said to me on multiple occasions that when he leaves, he will never come back or ever talk to me or my wife ever again. And you know what? If he is a grown man that is able to take care of himself and be completely independent...... I'm ok with that. 

I know, right? I must be horrible. See, this is where you have people who are not parents, or maybe some that are, who will pass judgement on me. They will say things like - "if the child doesn't want anything to do with you, then you may want to check yourself for why." or " if the child doesn't want anything to do with you as an adult, look in the mirror, it probably is not them with the problems."

"A parent losing them hurts less than admitting they caused the pain." 

I've seen a lot of those kind of memes. And I am sure in some cases (maybe most. . . . I do t know) they are true....

But in my case, it is not. 

In my case, he is trying to emotionally manipulate me. He says I set too high or standards and that I expect too much of him. He says I purposely have traumatized him and made choices that benefited me and that I was only being selfish.

Yeah, he has said a lot to me, you know. 

Like how I am no father of his. That I didn't love him. That I would be happy if he committed suicide or that my life would be easier if he actually went through with it. That I am the cause of his depression and anxiety and PTSD. He continually says, "Fuck you" when he doesn't like what I have to say or how I think or believe differently than he does. He tells me I don't help him or do anything for him. You don't know how I feel. You don't care how I feel!"

And what, might you wonder, do I say to him to get such things said or screamed at me?

I say, "You can do this when you don't think you can." "I know it's scary, but you have to fight back, and it will get less and less as you build the routine." "I want you to be a confident and independent adult." "I have set up this program that will give you assistance and help" "I want you to understand how this works so you can do it yourself." 

And then there is the time I have spent..... Time filling out forms and going to counseling appointments and taking him to meetings and calling people..... God the time on the phone! And taking him places he wanted to go and building memories and trying to show him the world is not as scary as he tells himself it is. 

Then there is the money..... Mostly it is from medical bills. The times he had to be put in a hospital for fear of a suicide attempt or self harming. . . . 

And the time I spent with him waiting for treatment or visiting him or taking him back for follow ups. 

And then it would happen again.......

And then again......

It seemed like nothing would help him to be better. 

After a few years of this cycle the just kept turning, he started to blame me. Blame me for not doing anything and for not helping him or doing as much for him or taking things away from him. He would scream and yell and cuss at us. He said horrible abusive things to me. He would put a knife to his neck and threatened to cut himself asking me if that is what I wanted ...... If I wanted him to bleed out on my floor. And then he has hit me and has advanced on my wife.....

After all that..... He threatened to leave and never talk to me again. He asked me if the is what I want..... If I want him to leave my life forever. . . .if I was ok with "losing my son."

And you know what? 

I am not a failure. 

He failed me in spite of all I have done. 

And now he spites me. 

Because I don't want to do it anymore. I think I have suffered enough. 

My views on salt makes me a liberal ...... I guess.

So there was this videos short on Facebook that made the claim that table salt was "dead" and bleached which made it a poison. Then it said that sea salt was better for their health and had many health benefits because of the minerals. So..... Here is the thread of conversation that came after my comment. . . . 

 

My first comment --------

 Me -First of all, table salt has not been bleached. They don't use bleach for refined salt.. That's absurd. Secondly, sea salt is still like 98-99% table salt and the rest is other types of salt (like calcium chloride or magnesium sulphate) and trace minerals. If you think that sea salt is significantly different, it is just placebo and marketing effect.

 

And here we go....... This guy was off and running!

Him - Kobbled Krafts no, it’s simply natural and made by nature. It contains enzymes and aminos along with many other minerals. Table salt is man made, lab made and full of poison. Try again

Me -  Keep on squawking like a parrot of all these people that have these Facebook and tic toc degrees. The difference between table salt and sea salt is extremely trivial. Saying otherwise is just chasing those other guy's red herrings.

Him - Kobbled Krafts you must be a liberal, allergic to facts 😂 I would hate to have your brain. Plus your health is probably in shambles. How many pills are you taking from your doctor?

Me - You sure are judgemental for someone that doesn't know about health as much as you believe you do. And throwing out the label of liberal on me tells me all I need to know about your mentality. I guess simple concepts of science is political for you or if you can't have any proof to back up your claims you just start labeling like it is all that someone needs to judge the validity of a person. If you believe that plain iodized table salt is a poison compared to sea salt, then there is no coming back from the type of ignorance you have in spades.

Him- Kobbled Krafts yep you’re in horrible health. You trust your “health officials” and pop whatever pills they tell you to take. I bet you love seed oils. Enjoy your fake salt fatty. Its trace minerals. Sea salt naturally contains them. Table salt is intentionally void of minerals and they lie to you and tell you it has “iodine” like there isn't plenty of other sources of iodine that don’t have actual bleach in it. I feel bad for you. I bet you got all you booster shots 😂

Me -  you are so indoctrinated by  conservatives and those people that feed your bias. Those minerals in sea salt are so small that you would have to eat literally pounds of sea salt to get the same as you would out of fruit and vegetables. You know..... Because they are just a trace amount .And if you think there is literally bleach in table salt, then you are seriously brainwashed. I hate to say it but you have to be stupid to believe that there is bleach in salt. Keep responding bud, you are really giving all these people a good example of what being manipulated with feeding your own bias looks like.

Him - Kobbled Krafts fucktard trust his government 😂 most minerals are absorbed better in trace amounts. You know nothing. Keep trusting the government. I’m not the one that is brainwashed here. You probably think Covid was handled correctly. Don’t forget your other booster shot. I bet Covid still kicked your ass

Me - no ... Minerals are not better absorbed at trace amounts.... Your body only needs trace amounts of some of them. Keep squawking that Republican vomit you have been spoon fed.

Him - Kobbled Krafts health is universal, you’re just more likely to be fat, dependent, and on medications if you’re a liberal. “Trust the experts” I actually feel bad for you. Because you’ll never know what it feels like to feel good about yourself. You hate Trump more than you love yourself. Let that sink in.

Me - You know.... Its the same with Trump supporters. They are all arrogant and blind to solid research. And when presented with the numbers and supported verified repeatable results that don't fit their viewpoint, they insult and belittle like they are on a pedestal. High and mighty in your blind ignorance blind cult like mentality. And just because I disagree with you and actually show that you are either flat out wrong or that you are over exaggerating, you label me as a liberal and assume my political views like it is a disease . Like this conversasion..... It is absolutely absurd and down right wrong that the type of salt (sea salt or table) affects your health to the degree you are saying. You are arguing with blind allegiance to whoever is lying to you and then you spit out those same false claims as if they are true on very little evidence (if you looked up the evidence at all). I am getting to believe it is Trump Thumpers that are the problem. If you truly feel that salt and dyes and the type of sugar that is in Coca Cola and the type of oil Mickey d's fries are cooked in makes our country healthy or sick, then you are truly lost and choose to be stupid because you have to know those things make very little difference to a person's overall health. 

 

Why are you not advocating for lower prices on whole foods and fresh meat and fresh vegetables? Why are you not advocating for increase exercise? Why are you not advocating for better access to preventative care (dare I say..... Vaccines?). Why are you not advocating for more affordable health insurance? Hell, I bet you are still talking about the food pyramid when that has not been the recommended eating guidelines for over a decade .... Why don't you support and advocate the "my plate" as a resource for healthy eating?

Him - Kobbled Krafts mind virus. You’ve been consumed by evil.

Me -  obviously I could say the same to you based on your responses.

Him -Kobbled Krafts I’m not maga, but you are however okay with killing babies

Me - That's quite a baseless accusation... See? You are being arrogant and judgmental. You can say you are not MAGA but you seem to have the mentality of one.

Him - Kobbled Krafts you’re brainwashed. Show me one study that supports your claim that unrefined sea salt has the same mineral content as bleached table salt? Show me that studie or shut the fuck up lol

Me -  Can you not read? Does your reading comprehension suck? Reading for content must not have been a strength for you in school or something. Go back and reread what I have written. Here.... I will repeat myself..... Again...... First, table salt does not have bleach in it. It is not "dead" or a "poison". It just does not have the minerals and other types of salt. Secondly, the minerals and other salts that are in sea salt are so small and trivial that there is absolutely no benefit (or harm) to using sea salt over table salt. There is no nutritional or benefit at all to using sea salt over table salt or vice versa. 

I think I have made those two points pretty clear several times. You can try to rage bait me all you want but I am circling back around to the original fact that there is no nutritional difference and no health difference between sea salt and table salt.

Him - I’ve been taking unrefined sea salt for years and my health has never been better. You’ll pay for your health. You’re a lab rat. When’s the last time you even exercised? When the last time you even upgraded your knowledge?

You’re one of those “careful with red meat and eggs” phaggots

Me - You sure are quick when it comes to shallow debate and no depth of knowledge. You can throw all the labels and what you think of as insults to try and get an upper hand or distract me but it doesn't change the fact that table salt is no more of a poison than sea salt. The traces of minerals in sea salt mean absolutely nothing to our overall health. And there is no bleach (chlorine ) in table salt. You are flat out wrong on that. And you are just showing how lost you are when it comes to basic common sense. .. well I guess not so common for you.

Him - I think you have taken too much fluoride. Can you show me a study showing that table salt is the same as sea salt?

A long paragraph to tell me “I love chemicals” “Chemicals are better than what nature has to offer” I bet all my claims were correct about you. You never denied it.

Me - Are you dense? Go back and read the comments. You are so narrow minded and eager to spit out crap arguments you are parroting from senseless influencers that I don't think you really are reading my comments for comprehension. So, here I go again..... They are not the same. BUT... The difference between them are so small that sea salt is not nutritionally better for your health than table salt and vice versa. Claiming that sea salt is better just because it has trace amounts of extra minerals is a foolish claim when it is in an amount that is trivial that it is considered non-existent in benefit over table salt. And again..... If you think there is literal chlorine bleach in table salt, you are just being purposely stupid about it.

Him - and your claim is incorrect, imagine trying to defend a point that is at the end of the day, WRONG

Me - imagine lacking so much reasoning skills in the area of proportions and the idea of significant amounts that people are shaking their heads with sympathy for your ignorance while you still hold on to false ideas.

Him - still haven’t showed me the studies 

Me - You haven't either...... Just saying. And if this guy on this video is your source..... Well I think I would trust a medical doctor or nutritionist for my facts thank you very much......

But if you want some reading material.....here ya go. Its not very hard to find a side by side comparison and how trivially insignificant the difference of sea salt and table salt is. Hell, I bet you will read these (probably not I am guessing) and still say I don't know what I am talking about.

Go ahead buy those programs that guy is selling. He is scamming you hook line and sinker to make a buck off of you.

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/pink-himalayan-salt#TOC_TITLE_HDR_4

https://www.eatrightpro.org/news-center/practice-trends/is-one-type-of-salt-healthier-than-another?

https://thereader.mitpress.mit.edu/sea-salt-is-no-health-potion/

 

You guys are being scammed and your ignorance or your naivete is being exploited. If you still believe that there is enough minerals in sea salt to make a significant amount of health difference, you are mistaken. If you look at the chart of the different types of sea salt and then compare the amount of that nutritional mineral to the USDA recommended daily amount.... You would have to consume an excessive amount (like absurdly excessive amount) per day to make even a minor dent in health benefits.

You have to do a little math on your own because in the science world this is such a no brainier that there is no real side by side comparison done for you, but I did one example just to prove what I am claiming.

For example, let's take magnesium. You need 400 mg of magnesium per day recommended. If you look at the average sea salt you would need to eat 267g of sea salt PER DAY ..... Over a half pound of sea salt....... To hit that recommended amount of magnesium per day.

Like I said, the amount of minerals in sea salt is absolutely trivial and makes absolutely no difference to your health whatsoever in the amount you'd have to eat it in order to get any significant amount of minerals for your diet. There is no nutritional difference between table salt and sea a salt.

If you don't understand that then we're just going to have to agree to disagree and you're just being blind to straight up numbers. There's nothing more I can say about that.

And the second point I was making, that there is no bleach in bleached salt is kind of a no-brainer. The word "bleached" can refer to something just being white which pure granulated salt is white. It DOES NOT mean there literally is bleach in table salt.

The website source is..... https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37624210/

 

Him - you must be seriously unhealthy

 

Me - it is interesting to me how you (and others) make a judgment on my overall health on just my claim about the difference between table salt and sea salt. I also think it is very telling of your perception of how much difference actually makes a significant difference in outcomes. For instance.... Saying the extra minerals in sea salt makes a significant change in your overall health is like saying that some one who has a million dollars is rich and one that has $999,995 dollars is poor.

It's either your perception of abundance versus benefit or you are just easily persuaded without having good logic skills.

Have you actually looked at the empirical difference between plain table salt and the average sea salt? Like actually compared side by side the actual content and actual weight difference? The difference is so small compared to what out body actually needs each day that they are basically the same thing. It's like the difference between $1,000,000 and $999,995.

Think about it.

 

Him - I’ve never seen someone be so committed to being wrong and uninformed. I must’ve struck a nerve. You’re still wrong. still haven’t showed me any proof of Table salt being the same as sea salt. You have the same mental function as a rock.

 

One has chemicals. One is left the way nature intended. Does that make sense? Or are you just down right retarded?

 

Me - I have been thinking you have a problem with reading or understanding the English language. I have been clear and have provided lots of proof with examples that there is no nutritional...NUTRITIONAL..... Difference between table salt and sea salt. I have provided sources that list the components of both table salt and sea salt. They clearly show that table salt is not full of chemicals.... It is just one - sodium chloride. In some table salt, they add iodine which is still not even close to being a poison. And sodium chloride is not a poison to you either. If it was, then sea salt would be a poison since 98% or more of it is plain ol' sodium chloride (you know.... Table salt). They also show that the extra minerals that are in sea salt are not enough to make any difference to your health whatsoever. Not a bit. You would have to have at least a half a pound or more of sea salt per day to even get a small amount of benefit from the minerals in sea salt.

Seriously, If you are this committed to being wrong and name calling and asking for proof when it was given just shows that you may have a comprehension problem. Go back and read all the comments I have made. Read them carefully and check the sources I have provided and do the math of relative amounts compared to suggested daily amounts. I am wondering about just how much you understand.

I wonder about how well you understand written English if you have read all the comments and still claim there is no proof. On top of that, you have given me no evidence of all the chemicals that seem to be in table salt and any studies of the health benefits of sea salt over table salt. I know I haven't demanded it of you but I would think if you wanted to discredit my claims that you would have some credible source and studies and data to show everyone you can back it up. But all you have is insults and "its natural". Those are junk reasons and how children argue.

Read my comments again. If you Have nothing more than " its natural" or "you are retarded" as a reason why you are right, then I guess you will just have to live in your blind ignorance or lack of intelligence to understand simple written English.

 

Him - you’ll keep trusting the government until your pronouns are was/were

 

Me - You do realize this is a discussion about salt, right? Just straight up comparative composition and relative benefits of sea salt compared to table salt. Being insulting and obtuse and this adamite about sea salt having such a great effect on your health when I have shown pretty clearly that is makes no difference at all sure does show your ignorance and lack of reasonable thought. I mean, why else would you counter my sources and facts with insults, allegations and dismissal? You truly are blindly following what people say that are just as mislead as you are. I just hope you are not paying for some special sea salt believing it is doing something for you when it doesn't do anything at all but empty your pocket of your money. Just go to like Marshals and get your sea salt there for a couple of bucks and you will get the same results. . . . So while it has been amusing to banter back and forth with you and see how far and mean you would get with your insults and hollow meaningless reasoning, I think I have more than proven my claims with analogies, sources , and examples. Have a great day, and remember . . . . it is just salt. Seriously, dude. . . it is just salt.

Sockets

 

It may look like just a bunch of old and worn out tools but they are part of who I am. Not the tools themselves but the memories they invoke. 

Because this set of sockets and socket wrench belonged to my grandpa Hubbard.

 They were his and they are one of the few things that are left of him that I kept and cherish when I need them. I know when I use these tools (that I jealousy took) that he would smile at how I have taken good care of them and still use them. 

So much of who I am came from him: my skill with building and fixing things, my problem solving and the engineer in me. That all came from my untrained desire and interests guided by his teaching me how to work with tools and think out a problem. 

There are times I get a memory that is so strong that I can actually hear his voice in my mind, and it seems so real that I actually turn my head to see if he is really there. But I know that he is not. It has been over 30 years since I have heard his voice. Since I have seen him. Since he has called me, "Knuckle Head". The memory, though, can be so intense.....

God, I miss him some days. And the pain of loss comes flooding in. 

Memories come and I start reliving a lot of time I had with him. I remember so many things and replay so many reels of memory videos to refill my reserve of making sure not to forget that man. The man who was such an integral part of who I am. I roll them through my head for a few minutes and enjoy the time I have with him again. . . .even though they are just memories. 

And then it is inevitable. I come to the part when I lost him. His cancer. His decline. 

And that is where I have images of him in his last day or two. Memories I have but don't want. I hate that those are the last things I remember of him. I hate that my feelings of sorrow and pain and loss have saved those memories with such clarity and realness. . . burned them permanently into my memory. 

I hate it. 

Maybe that is why I don't like funerals and walking up to caskets. I don't want that image of my loved one to be the last memory of them. Burned into my memory like I do with the last days with grandpa. I want to keep the memories of them when . . . . . 

Sigh. . . . . 

So, yeah. these are my grandpa's Craftsman socket set from Sears. And I was able to fix the dryer with them and the Spirit of Grandpa in me. Man, I miss him some days. 

I saw this Video on my feed - - - it's about the worth of being married.

I saw this short video from like a tic tok of a woman that was talking about whether it not it was worth it to get married. She has been married for 7 years now and she said her husband was a good husband. You know..... Not abusive but good and supportive and provides. 

She was saying things like you lose yourself and your sense of individuality, and that you lose your sense of peace, and having to deal with another person every single day for the rest of your life. She even says that she doesn't know why she feels that way because she has a good man. 

Well, I know why she feels that way. It's because our society is not teaching, showing, and understanding what it means to be a married person where you bond with your spouse and become one flesh like it is taught in the Bible.  That is the problem. And I might be a little judgmental or gender profiling, but I feel that women are being taught the opposite and men just have an intuitive understanding of what it means. 

Well, here is my comment to this post......

 I don't know.... I have never questioned why I am married. Maybe it is because I knew what a decades long marriage was and knew that I wanted it. And I am in one. And I will die with her by my side or her with me by her side. Do I think she wants to bail? After 25years? No. Not even a little. To say that you lose your individuality..... Yeah, in a sense that is true. But in another sense, it is not true. We all have our hats (personalities) that we wear.... At times I am a married man and at times I am a father and at times I am myself. All of those are true and I shift constantly from one to another. It's because I am an individual who knows exactly who he is in all those roles.....when I am in my married man energy, it does not mean I have lost my identity or individuality, it means that my identity is like a gem and multifaceted.... And being a husband is a big part of that. I am ok with that, and I expected and wanted it to be that way. 

I guess what I am saying is that if you feel like you don't have your own identity and individuality as a married person, maybe you didn't know what being married really was in the first place.

I have discussed this idea before. Did I lose my identity by getting married? .... No. I wanted to incorporate being a spouse into my identity. Being married is part of who I wanted to be and who I am today. I will go back to the Bible..... Whether you believe all the stuff in the Bible or not, setting aside the whole one God and accepting Jesus thing, the Bible really does have some truths and hard lessons in it. The whole "one flesh" idea is truly what sets a successful marriage apart from a marriage that will fall to pieces. 

After more than 25 years of being with my wife, I now understand the whole Trinity thing with God. I see that in my wife and I. She has her identity, and I have mine but then there is this third that is us together. Our marriage is its own ..... Being?....... Identity.?..... Soul? ...... Call it what you will. What I do know is that my wife and I and our marriage are separate and together and all exist at the same time. 

Hard to understand? Sure it is. Just like trying to understand the Trinity, right? But I understand the Trinity a lot more after being married for decades than I ever did before I was married. It all makes sense to me now that I am experiencing it firsthand.

It takes time though. It takes time to soul search in order to really know if you're truly a marriage type person. It takes time to envision what your marriage will be and who you will be as a spouse. It takes time to decide what will create a happy and fulfilling marriage for you. It takes time to truly set your mind. spirit, and soul to becoming a new person and to be content and fulfilled with the idea that you will be one with another person and also exist as a separate person at the same time. It takes time to find the person who will be the person that will be the one that will share that vision.

And that.......That is why we have so much discontent in our relationships today. That is why there are so many on social media spouting all this advice and revelations that really mean nothing. It is because more and more people don't get the meaning and the truth of what marraige truly is to begin with and there are very very few examples to show them. 

Do some soul searching. Decide if you are the "three in one" type before you decide to marry someone. That is probably the best advice I have for you. 

I hate being forced to do this.

 I hate that I'm being forced to do this. I hate that I have to make choices based on what's best for my entire family because of one family members choices that is really threatening the security of the rest of us. Here's the message I sent to our family counselor about what my son has done......

I am really torn up right now. I want to reassert that the biggest issue with my son and my wife and I is what we want compared to what he wants. No amount of communication will fix that. And everything is fine until we set a boundary and say no.

Right now I have decided that I am going to drop him from my medical insurance. He had an episode the day before yesterday and checked himself into the Vanderbilt mental health hospital. This is getting to be a problem because it's been less than a month since he did it last time. And just about every time he checks himself into a hospital they send me like a $1,000 bill. This often is not sustainable at all with our income.

And I just cannot sustain that at the rate he falls apart all the time. I have been paying on one bill for over a year and he accrued another 800$ bill less than a month ago and now I have no idea what I will be charged for this but he was taken to the emergency room since they didn't have staff to deal with him.

One of the issues he works on me with is the guilt of not wanting to pay for all this stuff as if I'm a horrible father for not doing that. But it's too much..... I'm going to end up having to file for bankruptcy for a second time in my life if it keeps on like this that is not good for my family and household.

Dropping him for my insurance will be nothing short of catastrophic for him..... He will not be able to afford meds, councillors, or any other medical issue. On the other hand I can't let it go on for him to keep going to the hospital and draining my finances because he can't manage his emotions or mental health. It's been over four years of therapy and meds and he is running my finances dry. And that scares me a lot with another boy half way through college and my wife with her chronic health issues. I feel like I am a passenger in my own car with him driving and running into anything and everything while I sit with no control over his driving at all. Well, one thing I can do is take away the keys.

One thing that will be absolutely sure, Austen will come unhinged when I do it. But I just can't let him have that control over my money like that. Its getting to be reckless, it threatens the security of the rest of my family, and I have to put a stop to it.

I just don't know what else to do or if I can really do anything else..... I'm being forced to or having the make choices of more struggle for my family. I just can't do that so I sent a message to the court person about him too.....

Just dropping a line. My wife told me about my son checking himself into the hospital last night. 

I am going to have to take him off our insurance. The bills will come to me as the insurance holder and I will be responsible if I don't pay them even though he is the one that got them. There is 800$ from his last visits and who knows how much for this time and he will just keep going at his whims. I hate it but to keep me from being financially strangled and going bankrupt.... I can't think of what else to do. 

I would like to start the process of applying for TNcare. Can you help us with this?

God...... Will this get easier ever?

Family Therapy V

A couple of days ago my son asked me if  had any play doh. I said that I didn't and he told me he only had $18 in his account and he didn't want to run short. I said that's ok because he can just stop by the dollar store and get like a cheap no brand one. 

Well that turned into a horrible fight and it is the same old same old. 

Well here we are going n our therapy session where I played out the whole thing. But I tried to get across how it is not the communication that is the problem, it is the fact that I just don't want to do as much as I used to because I feel I have done more than what is expected of me as a father. And I am laying down boundaries that he just does not like or accept. 

Well I started it all off and then the therapist went after him with very deep and confrontational questions that really stepped into his comfort zone. He challenged all of my son's defensive accusations and arguments. And I just listened to him digging and digging in. 

I think one of the most thought provoking idea he forced my son to come to terms with is the difference between what is best for him and what he felt was good or what he wants. And I really never though about it like that. He said that my son wanted to come home and he wanted out of the home he was in and that my son felt that would be good but was that the best for him? And that clearly was not. Then he said that my son was where he was at and doing what he was doing because being at home was not the best for him. He said there was a reason he was being kept from home and then he had my son tell him why..... And he struggled. So the therapist told him why. 

it was pretty reassuring that this therapist was not just validating him and telling him what he though was right or told him that we were the problem. I have said it before that I have struggled with not being heard in the midst of his problems. And today really was not like that at all. 

So, I am not sure my son really feels good about what wast talked about today but I thing what was talked about was what was best for him. 

My Facebook post for today......

You know, sometimes what we may feel is good for us or what we want is not necessarily what is best for us. 

I am finding that saying "this is for your own good" really is saying, "you will not think this is good for you and you will not like it but I feel it is the best for you in the long run and I am making a hard choice to try and make sure your future is better than the present. " 

And I am willing to accept that you will hate me for it. 

Damn being a parent is hard.